A few months ago - December of 2013, to be exact! - I broke up with Facebook. Yep, I quit that bad boy cold turkey and have not yet looked back. At first it was weird - I felt a bit like a part of me was missing, how gross! - but in a very short while (if I remember correctly it was only a matter of days) I wasn't missing it at all. For the record I also quit Twitter at that time, too. I do still use Instagram (for now) and am a self-proclaimed Pinterest Queen.
What made me decide?
For me the decision was at first very difficult. The biggest problem I had with Facebook was having my entire past at my fingertips. Old flames, toxic relationships, what-have-you. Also, I was certainly addicted, which I am sure is their aim for every subscriber, spending upwards of four or five hours perusing other peoples lives DAILY, instead of living mine. Not to mention I was ignoring some very important parts of my life: keeping a clean home, spending quality time with my husband, being present and mindful with my kids. What a stagnant, depressed, sorry version of me.
Why was it right for me?
After using my powers of social media for evil rather than good more times than I'd care to admit, I came to the realization that something radical had to be done. I thought long and hard about what is most important in life, and what I will hope I had more of when my time on this planet runs out. I certainly won't be begging to know Suzy Noname's birth-date, or what Rob Whozit has been doing since elementary school. I will most assuredly be wishing for more quality time with the people I love. Breaking up with Facebook was just the first step in making time for what is truly important and getting back to a me that I recognize and love.
What do I miss?
I will be honest, there are a few things that I do miss about Facebook, but be ready because they're truly superficial. I miss being "tagged" in photos from my friends. I think I miss that because as a SAHM of three toddlers it was a reminder that I did, occasionally, let loose with the ladies. I have a gigantic newsflash for everyone, however: Even if no one ever knows about it, it STILL HAPPENED! This thought runs through my mind all. the. time. We got chickens last week and I wanted the whole world to know. Why? I felt like a badass homestead-starter with her priorities in tact. But here's the truth: I AM a badass homestead-starter even if no one else ever knows it. It doesn't have to be Facebooked, I don't need anyone else's praise or recognition. That sort of freedom is so... FREEING! Every delicious and healthy meal I eat isn't getting shared with the world. I don't need to "brag" to anyone or hear how "amazing" I'm doing at being healthy, or worse yet, have someone else's negative energy coming at me because they don't think I can.
How has life changed?
I am a more productive, free, and happy version of me. I don't use Facebook personally and I don't use it for my Blog. I think that even my memory is starting to improve. In fact, the more social media/constant feeds of news + gossip I eliminate, the easier it becomes for me to concentrate. I recently had to turn down an opportunity from a dear friend to participate in what she's calling a Mommy Collective. It seemed life-enriching but was mostly based in Facebook. It was hard at that moment to stand my ground. I'm also having more meaningful in-person conversations with family and friends, since I'm not reading about their every move on social media sites. Facebook was a slippery slope for me, which brings me to my next point...
Will I ever go back?
At this time the answer is no. There may come a time when I am more able to manage such a large and often intimidating social power more efficiently, but that time is nowhere near, nor is it on the horizon for me. For now I am pouring myself into my family, friends, and things that make me happy: our new baby chicks and growing "homestead", great big gardening dreams, and on and on and on. There's a lot of life to be had, if you just keep your head up and out of the
If you're considering quitting start with a simple Google search for inspiration! I read things like this diary, this article, and this article before I made the plunge. And, as always, feel free to ask me any Q's you might have - I'm happy to share more of what my experience has been, especially if it wasn't covered well enough up there ^
What do you think? Could you do it? What would be most challenging for you? Leave your comments below, I'm off to enjoy the fam :) xo
*Stay tuned for volume 2, coming soon: Breaking up with an iPhone!